Dating on campus favored by students

Brian Velez
Staff Writer

Women have estrogen, men have testosterone, and spending day after day in the same class with the opposite sex may cause tension.

Nonetheless, a recent survey on campus found that the majority of ULV students give the notion of dating classmates thumbs up.

Of the 55 students surveyed by the Campus Times, 37 felt dating another student was a good idea, while 18 did not. Of the 55 students, 25 were male and 30 were female.

The size of the school and student body is a factor that all students interviewed took into account. Students who disliked the idea of on-campus dating said they feel fellow students will know too much about them and their relationships.

Students, such as freshmen political science major Yvette Carrillo, feel on-campus dating is positive because it creates a sense of community.

“Your friends will be able to meet the person you date and get to know them,” Carrillo said.

Students such as senior social science major Arielle Monteilh and senior political science John Mebane also see nothing wrong with dating another student.

Monteilh and Mebane have been together for six months, they met in their government and politics of the Middle East class.

“I asked her out a couple times, she denied me,” Mebane said.

When asked why she turned Mebane down, Monteilh replied, “You know, I played hard to get.”

College provides the opportunity for new experiences, to meet new people, make friends and possibly meet a student’s future wife or husband. There is never one correct approach or guaranteed result.

However, attending a university that is small, with a main campus enrollment of 3,200, increases the possibility of running in to an ex. Such is the case for junior business major Kevin Dowell.

Dowell was in a relationship with a woman student his sophomore year when she was a freshmen. The relationship lasted a year and a half. Outside influences were partly to blame for the break-up, Dowell said.

“Gossip got in the way; others were talking and people were spreading rumors. Gossip was not the main reason for the break-up, but it was a big factor” Dowell said.

“We’re on good enough terms. It doesn’t bring my whole day down when I see her but it’s a drag sometimes,” Dowell said.

Students such as sophomore movement and sports science major Julia Borges compare the size of ULV and the maturity level of some students to a high school.

“Relationships at this age are not for me,” Borges said. “It’s hard when you are not fully mature.”

“It’s important to pay attention to your school activity, not only your girlfriend or boyfriend,” said Malissa Hernandez, coordinator of alumni relations.

Hernandez deals directly with many alumni who met as ULV students and are now married.

Finding a person who will empathize with college life and school work is possible, but there should always be a balance Hernandez said.

Balance is something doctor of psychology trainee Candis Carswell thinks is important when dating.

While dating, some students don’t participate socially and it affects academics said Carswell, who works in the La Verne counseling center.

“Students should not expect anything serious, just a dating situation” Carswell said.

Professor of Theatre Arts David Flaten feels that ULV students dating each other is a good idea.

“I am all for it,” Flaten said. “Just don’t be groping in class, it’s okay to be affectionate”

It is natural for students to bond with each other and develop romantic interest considering all the time they spend together in class and on campus social areas, Flaten said.

Considering the campus size and enrollment, students should consider the pros and cons of dating a fellow student, faculty and students agree.

But never feel discouraged if rejected or if the relationship does not work because putting yourself out there could bring you closer to the person that is right for you, they said.

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