Around 80 women came together on Saturday at the Doubletree in Pomona for the EmpowHERment Women’s Brunch Conference put on by Soroptimist International of San Dimas/La Verne.
There were raffles speakers, and 15 vendors at the event including Damsel in Defense, Lip Sense and Scentsy.
Four women spoke on empowerment through an array of topics while receiving praise through cheers from the audience.
“Today is the day to feel empowered, today is the day to share that power, today is the day to accept that everything is within your power and your power is within you,” said attorney Karen Zubiate-Beauchamp, a Soroptimist member.
Having a source of power outside of ourselves allows us to run forever, said Zubiate-Beauchamp. Soroptimist International provides an outside power source to make women’s and girls’ dreams come true, she said.
Soroptimist International is a group of women who help women and girls obtain more resources and opportunities to reach their full potential.
The Soroptimist group offers two programs: Live Your Dream, an education and employment program that assists women who serve as the primary financial support for their families, and Dream It, Be It, which offers support to girls facing poverty or teen motherhood, and girls in foster care.
Ehmandah Ramsey’s talk, “Ready. Set. Glow.” addressed self-empowerment and a woman’s tendency to walk around with theoretical masks on as they pretend to be fine, faking that everything is okay. Storytelling is a great was to help empower yourself, Ramsey said.
Ramsey said she had this happen to her personally after losing her “glow” in a relationship, though she never told anyone what she was going through.
“Ramsey was losing herself slowly and I didn’t say anything because I was scared of what people would think about her,” Ramsey said.
“When you start to talk negative to yourself and think of negative thoughts, you lose your ‘glow’ even more.”
The best way to recover is to tell your story. Feeling empowered to tell your story is crucial so your loved ones can help you and be there for you, said Ramsey.
Your loved ones are those closest to you who stick by through your healing, they help bring your glow back with support and positive affirmation, Ramsey said.
“Never forget who you are and what you want to do,” Ramsey said. “Do not forget about you. Yes, get married and have children and do great things, but never forget about you. We as women do that we push ourselves down to build others up.”
The next speaker, Jaymi Asbusham, ULV assistant professor of education, spoke on “Women Mentoring Women.”
Asbusham discussed the two types of people: seesaw people and elevator people. She explained that seesaw people tend to push others down to get to the top, while elevator people prefer to climb to the top by encouraging others to do the same. Woman mentors know what women deal with on a daily basis, and that helps bring up the mentees, said Asbusham.
“I worked with many people who were on the seesaw, but I am grateful for the women who held the elevator door open for me,” Asbusham said.
Asbusham stressed the importance of self-efficacy, which is the belief in one’s innate ability to achieve goals. Those with low self-efficacy are prone to give up and stay stagnant, but she said that effective mentoring and daily challenges help develop self-efficacy.
“Women are better when we gather together and we have wealth of information to share with one another,” said Jane Suarez, a health clerk at Liberty Elementary in Ontario.
The last speaker was Rita Boccuzzi, a finance coach, who spoke on how saving your money at a young age helps immensely in the long-run. She said that although the nation has an abundance of money, there is still a lack of education on what to do with that money.
“I am going to take to practice the money management suggestion and try to pay myself first in order to save money each month,” Cindy Baracchini, marriage and family therapist from Claremont.
Young people have both the knowledge and the time to break habits and start saving money Boccuzzi said. Instead of shaming yourself for money issues, you must start practicing responsible money habits through the use of tracking with a notebook, or budgeting, she said.
Hannah Rogers can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.